Hi everyone, I'm "new" in this scene, or rather I'm kinda peeking in.
I stumbled upon some reddit community and then this forum. I know that this world exists, just didn't know it so prevalent or so accessible (or so it seems).
I'm intrigued, maybe even mildly obsessed - regularly checking for new posts, fantasizing about potential scenarios and even jerking off when reading about some of the stories.
A little self introduction: I'm in my late 30s, married. I only have 1 partner, so pretty inexperienced and maybe that's what fueling this curiosity?
Due to kid, we end up having staggered sleeping and wake up timing, so it's quite hard for us to find time together. On occasions that we do, either one of us may be too tired or mentally fatigued.
Maybe it's a habit (or destress) but I often jerk off in the morning before my partner or my kid wakes up. Some materials I often find myself attracted to are “wife” being pleasured by another man (occasionally multiple) or "wife" taking ownership of her own pleasure (or succumb to her desires) even if it means exploring outside of marriage. Not really about the hardcore raw pumping but really more about the sensual enjoyment.
I'm not ready to jump into the lifestyle. I have reservations and I don't think I will eventually, but I'm genuinely curious. For those who are practicing this lifestyle, especially for married couples. How did you first start? Who and how was the first move made? Any other “lurkers” like me, curious?
I don't know what I'm hoping for but for anyone who read so far, thank you for taking the time. If there's anybody who is willing to share your story or wish to connect, it will be my pleasure to be of your acquaintance.